🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #164

How do I help young children from two homes build a genuine sibling bond?

A real bond grows from shared memories, so create experiences together that they enjoy again and again. Plan simple activities that need cooperation, such as baking kuih, playing sport or art projects, so that they work as one team. Celebrate each other's birthdays and achievements so that they feel they belong to one another. Teach them to share and take turns, because these skills strengthen brotherhood and sisterhood. Avoid making them carriers of news or spies between the two homes. Remember, children of the same father are real siblings, and this bond is among the most precious gifts you can give them for life. Read also children in polygyny.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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