🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #346

We both work full time. How do we organise the house and children without chaos?

The secret is to plan as a team, rather than letting things fall to whoever gets to them first. Sit down at the weekend and plan the coming week together: who drops off and picks up the children, who cooks, and when to buy necessities. Write it down so that no task is missed and nothing is assumed. Make big decisions by discussing them together, rather than leaving everything to one person. Have a back-up plan for emergency days such as a sick child. Review and improve the arrangement every few weeks so that it keeps working. Organised sharing reduces arguments and exhaustion. See duties of husband and wife.

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