🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #362

We both work different shifts. How do we make sure the children are always looked after and our relationship is cared for?

Alternating shifts can be an advantage for childcare, but they need careful coordination and effort to look after the relationship. Arrange your schedules so that one of you is always with the children, and hand over important information at each changeover through a notebook or short message. Leave loving notes for the spouse you rarely see awake. Set aside at least one day a week when you are both off together. Make sure the children are not confused by keeping fixed things such as bedtime. Look after your own rest, because shift work is physically tiring. See duties of husband and wife.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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