May I give my co-wife a gift at Hari Raya or at a family event?

Giving your co-wife a gift is permitted and can become a bridge of affection, as long as it is sincere and not a burden. A modest gift is enough; it is not a competition over who is more lavish. If you are not ready for that, there is no compulsion, and not giving is not a sin. Avoid using gifts as a way of competing for your husband's attention. When given with a clean heart, small gifts often soften a stiff relationship. Teach the children to give to one another too, so this kindness becomes part of the wider family's culture. Start with small steps at your own comfort level. See co-wife relations.