🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #373

Every time my spouse comes home after a long time abroad, we need time to readjust. Is that normal?

Yes, it takes time to readjust after a long separation, and knowing this helps you not to be shocked or disappointed. The household has been running on a routine without your spouse, and their return changes that rhythm for a while. Allow a few days for everyone to adjust without demanding that everything be perfect at once. Discuss expectations gently: roles, time with the children, and time as a couple. Avoid judging small changes in each other after being apart. Plan an enjoyable family activity to reconnect. Patience in the early days makes the transition easier. See everyday adab.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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