🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #372

I am looking after the children alone while my spouse works far away. How do I avoid being overwhelmed?

Looking after children alone for a while requires you to look after yourself first so that you are able to look after them. Simplify your daily expectations; a house that works matters more than a house that is perfect. Build predictable routines so that the children are calmer and the day is easier. Ask for help from family, neighbours or services you can afford, and accept help without guilt. Involve your spouse from afar in supporting you and making decisions. Take a little rest time for yourself every day. If you feel too stressed, talk to a doctor or counsellor. See mental health.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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