🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #190

We often disagree about each other's families. How do we handle it without damaging our marriage?

Each of you needs to protect your spouse from feeling excluded or belittled by your own family, rather than always defending your family. Listen to your spouse's feelings about your family without immediately getting defensive, because they see what you may miss. Set fair boundaries with both families, and present them as a joint decision. Do not let anyone belittle your spouse in front of you. At the same time, keep doing good and maintaining family ties respectfully. Find a middle way that preserves family relationships without sacrificing harmony at home. Your first priority after Allah is your spouse and children. See in-laws.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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