🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #188

Our marriage is good now. How can we strengthen it so it holds firm when trials come?

The best time to strengthen a marriage is while it is calm, not waiting until it cracks. Build good habits now: open communication, worship together, organised finances, and a healthy way of resolving conflict. Learn each other's signs of stress so you can offer support early when trials come. Keep an emergency fund and plan together for hard times. Strengthen your friendship so that when trials strike, you face them as one team. Draw closer to Allah together, because faith is the firmest support when things are shaky. A tree with deep roots is not easily felled by a storm. See household review.

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