🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #229

My in-laws want to know about and control every one of our household expenses. What should we do?

Household money is a matter for the two of you; your in-laws should not control every expense. Appreciate their concern but gently make clear that the family budget is managed by the couple. Let the husband convey this boundary to his own family. Avoid lying or hiding things in a way that raises suspicion; simply keep reasonable privacy. If they help financially, thank them without handing over full control. Manage your finances transparently between the two of you. Prudent financial independence protects the dignity of the household. See family finances.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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