Since having children, we focus so much on them that we have forgotten ourselves as a couple. How do we balance it?

Children are happiest when their parents love each other, so looking after your relationship as a couple is part of raising your children. It is easy for all your energy to be drawn into the children until your spouse feels like a mere co-manager. Set aside a little regular time for the two of you, even after the children are asleep. Share the childcare so neither of you burns out. Express appreciation for your spouse's role as a mother or father. Show decent affection in front of the children so they learn what a warm home looks like. Couples who stay close raise their children in a calmer atmosphere. See communication & emotions.