After years together, everything my spouse does feels ordinary and I forget to appreciate it. What can I do?

Things that happen every day are the easiest to take for granted, yet that is where much of your spouse's sacrifice lies. The Prophet ﷺ said: “Whoever does not thank people has not thanked Allah” (Sunan Abu Dawud 4811). For a week, try noticing one effort of your spouse that you usually accept without thinking, then thank them for it specifically. Imagine for a moment if that effort stopped; it helps you appreciate it again. Do not keep appreciation only in your heart; say it. Appreciation for ordinary things nurtures love more than rare big gifts. Start today with one honest word. See everyday adab.

Sources

Sunan Abu Dawud 4811 (sahih)

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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