🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #73

My young child refuses to share toys at all. How do I teach them to share?

Refusing to share is normal for young children who are just grasping the idea of ‘mine’, and sharing is learned gradually, not forced. Start with fun turn-taking games so that they experience the pleasure of giving and receiving. Praise them every time they share, however small. Do not snatch a toy from them to give to someone else, because that teaches snatching, not generosity. Tell them in simple words how Allah loves those who are generous. Set an example by sharing food and things in front of them. With time and good examples, generosity will grow. See educating the family.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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