🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #123

My teenager shares everything with friends but keeps things from me. Why, and what can I do?

This is normal for teenagers, and it is not a sign that you have failed as a mother or father. Peers feel safer because they listen without punishing or rushing to correct. Be that kind of listener: welcome his small stories without panic or lectures so that he dares to bring the big ones later. Avoid overreacting to what he shares, because once he feels judged, that door closes. Get to know his friends and make your home a comfortable place for them to gather, so that you see his world up close. Keep being present without forcing, because a teenager's trust comes slowly to those who are consistent. See friends' influence on children.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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