🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #217

Our children are more fluent in the local language and are starting to forget our language and roots. What should we do?

Language and identity are roots that connect children to their family and religion, so they should be kept alive with love, not force. Keep the mother tongue alive at home through daily conversation, stories and songs, not only corrections when they get it wrong. Connect them with grandparents and relatives through calls so that the language has meaning. Tell family stories and stories of where you come from with pride so that they value their identity. Balance this by respecting the local language they need for daily life. Praise every small effort they make. See educating the family.

← PreviousOur young child feels distant and shy with his father, who is always abroad. What should we do?Next →How do I teach my child to respect grandparents who are not Muslim without confusing his faith (akidah)?

Related questions

Our children are starting to be influenced by local culture that conflicts with our values. What should we do?Face outside influence by strengthening values at home and a close relationship, not with bans and fear alone. …My in-laws love the grandchildren from the other side more than our children. How do I handle our children's feelings?Favouritism from grandparents really does hurt, but you can protect your children’s hearts without damaging family relations. Do no…Our two families are about to start living under one roof. How do we make it easier for the children to adjust?Prepare the children early with honest conversation, and do not expect everyone to get along in the first week. A…We live in a large multi-faith extended family. How do we safeguard our children's tauhid?The key to safeguarding children’s tauhid in a multi-faith environment is a strong foundation of faith at home, not shutt…The children have started carrying the rivalry between me and my co-wife into their relationships with each other. What should I do?The hostility of adults should not be inherited by innocent children. Children learn from what they hear; if they o…My children and my co-wife's children are always jealous and fighting when they meet. What should I do?The friction often comes from competing for their father’s attention, not because they truly hate one a…

This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

Comments or feedback

Read only by the MYPolygyny administrator — never published.

About Us · Ask · Site Map · Privacy · Editorial policy · Disclaimer