May I express the stress I feel, or is that a sign of ingratitude to Allah?

Expressing hardship is not a sign of ingratitude; what is blameworthy is grumbling against fate, not confiding in order to find calm and help. The prophets themselves complained of their sorrow to Allah without becoming ungrateful for His blessings. Pour out your heart in prayer, and talk with your spouse or a knowledgeable person who can help. Choosing a trustworthy listener is better than bottling it up until it explodes. Avoid spreading complaints on social media, which solves nothing. After you have opened up, return to effort and trust in Allah (tawakkul). Acknowledging your feelings is the first step to managing them. See communication & emotions.

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