🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #326

How do I build a good relationship with my spouse's extended family early in the marriage?

A good relationship with your spouse's family is built with respect, patience and small consistent steps, not in a day. Begin with a sincere intention to honour them, because they raised the person you love. Learn their names, preferences and customs, and show genuine interest when you meet. Help at family functions and visits as you are able, without pushing yourself beyond your limits. If a misunderstanding arises, mind how you speak and do not answer rudeness with rudeness. Ask your spouse to guide you on the sensitivities of their family. A warm relationship with the extended family strengthens your marriage rather than threatening it. See in-laws.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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