🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #327

I am stressed balancing work with my new household responsibilities. What can I do?

Adjusting to double responsibilities is indeed exhausting at first, and asking for help is not a sign of weakness. Do not try to do everything perfectly all at once; choose your priorities and accept that the house does not always have to be perfect. Share the housework with your spouse so that the burden does not fall on one person. Set simple routines that reduce tiring daily decisions. Look after your sleep, meals and worship, because they strengthen your resilience. Talk to your spouse when you feel overwhelmed, so that it is solved together. If the stress is prolonged and affects your health, see a doctor or counsellor. Balance comes with time and cooperation. See mental health.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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