🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #310

My family and my spouse's family follow different customs. How do we adapt without offending anyone?

Respect the customs of both families as long as they do not conflict with the Shariah, and decide together which customs you want to bring into your own home. Start by understanding what a custom means to each family before rejecting it; sometimes it is a sign of love, not compulsion. Distinguish between customs that are merely cultural and practices that touch on Islamic rulings; for those that touch on rulings, consult knowledgeable people. Discuss it between the two of you first, then convey your decision to both families with one voice and gently. Avoid leaving your spouse caught between you and their family. Your new home can choose the best of both traditions. See in-laws.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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