⚖️ Polygyny: rulings & justice · #92

I can afford it financially, but I doubt I can be fair in feelings and time. What should I do?

Justice in polygyny is not only about money; it covers the rota (turn of nights), time and equal treatment. Many can provide maintenance but fail to divide their heart and time, and one wife ends up neglected. Allah warns: “so do not incline wholly (to the one you love) and leave the other as if suspended” (Surah an-Nisa' 4:129). If you assess yourself honestly and find that your time and attention are not enough for two families, that is a strong reason not to go ahead. Financial ability alone does not qualify you; all-round justice is the condition. See conditions of polygyny.

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Surah an-Nisa' 4:129

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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