📜 Akad nikah · #94

We have been married for years and my mahr is still owed. How do I remind my husband nicely?

A deferred mahr is a debt that must be paid, and you have the right to remind him calmly. Pick a relaxed moment, not during an argument. Say: ‘Abang, I would like us to settle the mahr that is still outstanding. Can we plan it together?’ Suggest small monthly payments if that is easier for him. The Prophet ﷺ said: “Delaying the payment of a debt by someone who is capable is an injustice” (Sahih al-Bukhari 2400). Record every payment and the balance. If your husband refuses even though he can afford it, the religious office or the Syariah Court can help you claim it. See mahr as a debt or in instalments.

Sources

Sahih al-Bukhari 2400

← PreviousMy parents want to keep my mahr. Whose right is the mahr really?Next →My husband-to-be wants to give a very high mahr so that it looks impressive. Should I accept?

Related questions

I am a divorcee. Do I still need a wali to remarry?Yes; in the Shafi'i school practised in Malaysia, a previously married woman also needs a wali, but her consent must be stated clearly.…I have not been in touch with my biological father for a long time. Do I need to find him to act as my wali?Yes; as long as your father is alive, eligible and reachable, he is your wali even if the two of you are estranged. This is no…I married through a wali hakim because my father refused. How do I mend my relationship with him now?The door stays open; your marriage is valid, and your father’s right to be respected and treated kindly does not f…My father left the family and has been unreachable for years. Who will be my wali?If your father truly cannot be traced, the religious office will decide whether another paternal guardian (wali nasab) or a judge…My parents want to keep my mahr. Whose right is the mahr really?The mahr is entirely your right as the wife, not the right of your parents, your wali or your husband. Your parents may m…My husband-to-be wants a modest mahr, but my family wants a high one. Whose view should we follow?The mahr is your right, so your voice as the bride matters most in deciding it. Your family may want a high amoun…

This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

Comments or feedback

Read only by the MYPolygyny administrator — never published.

About Us · Ask · Site Map · Privacy · Editorial policy · Disclaimer