🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #152

My family and friends are pressing me either to separate or to stay after infidelity. What do I do?

Advice from those close to you comes from love, but this decision belongs to you, who will live with its consequences every day. They see it from the outside and do not carry the whole picture as you do. Listen to their views with thanks, but do not let pressure decide for you before you are clear yourself. Be careful about sharing too many details, because a story that spreads can make recovery harder if you eventually choose to stay. Seek advice from balanced sources such as a counsellor or a knowledgeable person who is not partial. Politely ask for space to decide in your own time. See counselling.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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