I am torn between continuing the marriage and separating after infidelity. Who can help?

A decision this big does not need to be made in a hurry or alone while emotions are still in turmoil. Give yourself time to calm down before deciding, because decisions made in anger or fear are often regretted. A family counsellor can help you weigh things clearly, and a sulh officer at the Syariah Court can help if discussions with your spouse reach a dead end. For questions about rights and rulings if you choose to separate, the state Islamic religious affairs office is the right place to ask. Consider safety, the sincerity of your spouse's repentance, and the effect on the children. Istikharah prayer and du'a can calm the heart while you weigh it up. See counselling.