My in-law likes to compare our children's achievements. How do we handle this rivalry?

Comparisons between children made by in-laws can plant rivalry; handle them without taking the bait. Do not be drawn into answering by showing off or putting their children down. Raise your children to strive for Allah's sake, not to beat their cousins. Celebrate your children's achievements modestly without fuelling a race. If the comments hurt, steer the conversation elsewhere politely. Teach your children that everyone has their own strengths. Praise your own children's effort and avoid joining a race started by your in-law. A heart free of comparison is calmer and more grateful. See educating the family.

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