How can we make sure our children are close to the grandparents on both sides fairly?

Plan your children's relationship with both sides of the family deliberately, rather than leaving it to chance or convenience. Distance and circumstances may differ, so fairness here means equal effort, not the same number of visits. Schedule visits, video calls and celebrations so both sides feel the grandchildren's presence. Tell your children about the good qualities of the grandparents on both sides so their love grows evenly. Avoid using the children as a tool to punish a family you are less happy with. Grandparents who are close to their grandchildren give them a sense of roots and being loved. Discuss it with your spouse so this effort is shared. See in-laws.