🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #216

My mother-in-law seems to feel I have taken her son away from her. How can I ease her feelings?

Reassure your mother-in-law through your actions that you are adding love to her son's life, not taking him from her. A mother's sense of loss when her son marries is a real feeling that should be understood, not fought. Encourage your husband to keep calling and visiting his mother, and never be seen as standing in the way. Involve your mother-in-law in family matters, ask for her views, and honour her position. Avoid openly competing for your husband's attention. When she sees her son happy and herself still respected, her worry slowly eases. Patience and consistent love are the most effective remedy. See in-laws.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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