🚪 Divorce, ʿiddah & rujuk · #156

The first Hari Raya after the divorce feels very lonely. How do I get through it?

Plan the day ahead so that you are not left with emptiness, and allow yourself to feel sad without letting it ruin the whole day. If the children spend the first day of Raya with your ex-spouse, arrange your time with them on another day and make it special. Fill Raya morning with the Eid prayer, visiting family graves or gathering with pleasant relatives. Prepare a short answer to relatives' questions, for example: ‘Alhamdulillah, we are adjusting.’ Call an understanding friend in the evening, when loneliness usually peaks. Next year's Raya usually feels lighter. See single mother support.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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