Does fantasising about someone else affect faithfulness even if nothing is done?

Guarding the heart and mind is part of faithfulness, because actions usually begin with a passing thought that is allowed to grow. A thought that comes once, unintentionally, is forgiven, but deliberately nurturing fantasies about someone else draws the heart away from your spouse. When such a thought comes, turn away from it at once and seek Allah's forgiveness (istighfar). Fill your mind with good things and renew closeness with your spouse. Stay away from material and company that trigger fantasies. Keep busy with worship and du'a so the heart returns to calm. A guarded heart finds faithfulness easier. See intimacy etiquette.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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