🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #178

The grandparents spoil the grandchildren from the other home more. How do I protect my child's heart?

Protect your child's heart by strengthening his sense of self at home first, then raising it tactfully with the grandparents. Do not react by being hostile to the grandparents in front of your child, because that teaches him to hate his own family. Privately and respectfully, tell them that different treatment hurts their other grandchildren. Focus on the love your child receives from you and his father, so that he does not depend on one person's approval. Teach your child that everyone has weaknesses, including beloved elders. If your child is often hurt, listen to him and assure him of his worth. See in-laws.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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