🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #172

My child says her father loves the other family more. How do I comfort her?

Assure your child that a father's love does not lessen even when it is shared, while acknowledging her feelings as valid. Do not speak ill of the father or the other family, because that adds to the confusion in your child's heart. Help her see the real evidence of love: her father's calls, the time he spends, and his attention to the things she likes. Encourage her to tell her father about that feeling directly in a good way, so that he knows and can do better. If the sadness drags on and affects her sleep or studies, get help from a counsellor. Pray for her peace of heart, and show consistent love yourself every day. See looking after mental health.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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