🤝 Existing wife & prospective wife · #96

I am jealous of my husband's late first wife, who is still mentioned and remembered. Am I sinning?

Your feelings are human and not sinful, but remembering someone who has passed away with kindness is noble character, not a betrayal of you. Your husband remembers her out of appreciation and mercy, not to compare you with her. Avoid asking your husband to forget her or stop praying for her, because that burdens his heart. Instead, gently express your need for reassurance of his love, and ask for space to build new memories together. Pray for her too; a heart that prays for someone finds it hard to stay jealous. Focus on your living relationship, not on competing with someone who is gone. See relationship psychology.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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