How can we as a couple talk about death and preparing for it without fear?

Talking calmly about death is a sign of faith and love, because it ensures those left behind are not confused or burdened. Choose a calm time and begin with the intention of caring for each other, not frightening each other. Discuss practical matters: your will (wasiat), debts, where important documents are kept, funeral wishes, and who will handle what. Remembering death actually softens the heart and encourages good deeds; it does not add to anxiety. End the conversation with a prayer for a good ending (husnul khatimah) for you both. Review these plans from time to time. Remembering death makes the rest of life more meaningful and the relationship more treasured. See preparing for death.