💰 Family finances · #86

The grocery money my husband gives doesn't last until the end of the month. How do I discuss it?

Bring this conversation as facts, not accusations: show what is needed compared with what is given. Prepare a list of necessary items and their cost so your husband sees the real picture, rather than just feeling that you are wasteful. The Prophet ﷺ allowed a wife to take what she sufficiently needed: “Take what is sufficient for you and your children, in a fair manner” (Sahih al-Bukhari 5364). Find a way together, whether by increasing the allowance, cutting costs, or planning more economical menus. If your husband is able but still withholds basic needs, seek advice from the religious affairs office. See maintenance guide.

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Sahih al-Bukhari 5364

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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