💍 Khitbah & engagement · #72

My future spouse is pushing to marry quickly and does not want me to think it over for long. Is that a danger sign?

Pressure that stops you from thinking, asking questions, or involving your family should be treated as a warning sign, not a sign of deep love. Marriage is a big decision that deserves calm consideration, istikharah, and advice from people you trust. Someone who loves you will respect your need to be sure, not pressure you with guilt or threats to break up. Ask yourself: why are they afraid of me thinking it over? If the reason is reasonable, it can be discussed; if it is to stop you looking into things, be careful. Take the time you need and consult experienced people. If the pressure turns into threats or you feel unsafe, call the police on 999 immediately; Talian Kasih 15999 is ready to give advice. See khitbah (proposal).

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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