💍 Khitbah & engagement · #73

During our engagement, he has started controlling my clothes, my friends and where I go. Should I be worried?

Yes, ever tighter control over your clothes, movements and relationships is a serious danger sign, not a sign of love. Controlling and isolating behaviour usually gets worse after marriage, not better. Religious advice is given gently and leaves you a choice, not through threats, monitoring your phone, or cutting you off from family and friends. Discuss your concerns with someone you trust, and do not ignore that feeling of discomfort. If you are threatened or feel unsafe, call the police on 999, and Talian Kasih 15999 for advice and support. You deserve to marry someone who trusts and respects you. See counselling.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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