🧒 Raising children (tarbiyah) · #195

How do I teach my children to respect their grandparents even though there is tension between us?

Children are still obliged to respect their grandparents even when there is tension between the adults. Do not plant hatred in your children's hearts by speaking ill of their grandparents in front of them. Teach the manners of respecting elders as a value, separate from adult conflict. Let the safe and healthy relationship between them carry on. If there is a serious issue that puts them at risk, protect your children wisely without insulting anyone. Show an example of respect even while you are hurting. Children taught to separate respect from conflict grow up more mature. See educating the family.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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