🤍 Character & conduct between spouses · #233
My husband sometimes compares me with other women. How should I tell him it hurts?
Comparing a spouse with others wounds the heart and never encourages good change. Choose a calm time, and express your feelings starting with ‘I’, for example: ‘I am hurt when I am compared with others; it makes me feel I am not enough.’ Avoid hitting back with hurtful comparisons of your own. Ask clearly for what you need, which is appreciation and not comparison. A good husband will realise and stop when told how it affects you. If it continues and undermines your dignity, consider help from a counsellor. Every spouse has their own strengths that it is unfair to compare. See communication & emotions.