I am a wife who feels not pretty enough compared with other women my husband sees. What can I do?

Your worth in the sight of Allah and in your marriage is not measured by comparing your looks with other women. Comparisons like this torment the heart and rarely reflect what your husband actually feels. Take care of yourself and your appearance for your husband as part of love, but do not let it become a source of lasting low self-worth. Cultivate the beauty that lasts: character, affection and the calm you bring to the home. Discuss these feelings with your husband so he can reassure you, and he in turn should praise you honestly. Spend less time looking at images of other women on screens that feed the feeling of not being enough. See mental health.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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