How do I choose my spouse again every day, not just stay because I am bound?

Choose your spouse every day through acts of love, because love is a decision, not just a feeling. Wake up every morning intending to be good to them, even if there was tension yesterday. Find new reasons to admire them, rather than keeping a list of faults. Do one deliberate act of love every day. Give them one specific word of appreciation today. Remember that staying because you have to is different from choosing out of love and responsibility. A marriage renewed every day does not become a prison. See rights of husband and wife.

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