I turned down the chance to marry again to protect my wife's feelings. Am I sinning?

No; polygyny is permissible, not obligatory, so choosing not to do it for the sake of harmony is not a sin. Caring for your wife's heart and preserving peace at home is a good that is asked of us. If you fear you cannot be just, holding back is in fact safer in terms of religion. Do not let pressure from others make you feel guilty about a good choice. Keep being a husband who fully fulfils his family's rights. If you are unsure about the ruling in your situation, ask the state mufti's office. See rights of husband and wife.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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