🧭 Preparation & choosing a spouse · #109

I am the bride's father. What advice is appropriate for me to give my future son-in-law?

Hand over the trust briefly and warmly: look after your daughter's faith, dignity and welfare, and the family's door is always open to him. Good advice is not a list of conditions or warnings. For example: ‘I entrust my daughter to you with full confidence. Look after her prayers, treat her well, and if there is a problem, come and talk to me.’ Choose a calm moment, either before the akad or at a family meal. Avoid sarcastic remarks in front of guests, as that embarrasses your son-in-law on his first day. The Prophet ﷺ said: “Enjoin good treatment of women” (Sahih al-Bukhari 5186). See responsibilities.

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Sahih al-Bukhari 5186

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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