🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #106

We are moving to a new place. How do we help the family adjust?

The key to adjusting is keeping familiar routines while giving everyone time to accept the change. Involve the children in the preparations, such as choosing the colour of their room or packing their own things, so they feel included. Keep mealtimes, bedtimes and worship as usual even though the surroundings change. Get to know the new mosque and neighbours quickly so that the family feels they belong there. Give the children room to be sad about leaving old friends; that is a healthy feeling. Husband and wife also need to support each other, because the stress of moving is high for everyone. See educating the family.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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