🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #84

Family members keep asking when we will have children. How do we answer politely?

Prepare a short, polite answer, and ask your spouse to stand up for you in front of their family. For example: 'Pray for us, insya-Allah it will come in its time.' You are not obliged to share details of treatment or your health. If the same question keeps coming, change the subject calmly or say gently that it is a private matter. Each spouse should speak to their own family, not leave their partner to face it alone. See in-laws.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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