🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #172

How can I make our home a place where my spouse and children feel safe to open up about anything?

A home feels safe when its members know they will not be scolded or shamed for opening up or making a mistake. This sense of safety is built through your responses: listen first, and do not immediately punish them or broadcast their mistakes. When a child or spouse admits a mistake, appreciate that honesty before correcting the matter. Control your tone and your face, because a harsh face silences someone who wants to open up. Establish that in this home, problems are faced together, not dumped on one person. An emotionally safe home becomes the place everyone wants to come back to. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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