We often have small fights as soon as we get home from work because we are both tired. How can we avoid this?

Tiredness shortens patience, so give yourself and your spouse space to recover before talking about heavy matters. Agree on one rule: no serious discussions or criticism in the first half hour after getting home. Use that time to change clothes, have a drink, or rest for a moment. Eat or drink something, because hunger often disguises itself as anger. Once calm, deal with household matters with a clearer head. If a fight does break out, recognise it as an effect of tiredness, not a sign that the relationship is cracking. Plan an evening routine that softens the transition from work to home. See communication & emotions.