🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #122

After a big fight, we have been cold and awkward with each other for a week. How do we break the ice?

Someone needs to take the first step to melt the ice, and that is a sign of strength, not defeat. There is no need to wait for whoever is more at fault to move first. There is no need to reopen the big issue straight away; start with small warm gestures, such as handing over a drink, asking how they are, or sitting close. Once the atmosphere starts to thaw, invite a calm discussion: ‘Let's sort this out properly.’ Do not wait for your spouse to move first, because two egos can drag the coldness out for weeks. Making the first move towards peace puts the relationship ahead of pride. See trials in a marriage.

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