My spouse is still in friendly contact with a former partner on social media. Should I be worried?

Your worry is justified if the contact is friendlier than necessary, because it opens room for old feelings and damages trust. Distinguish between simply being on each other's friend list and warm private conversations; it is the second that is worrying. Share your feelings honestly without accusing, and explain why it touches your heart. A spouse who loves you should be willing to close the door to temptation for the sake of peace at home. Avoid spying in secret, which only adds to suspicion; build openness instead. If a relationship is threatening the marriage, it must be firmly ended. If you are at a loss, see a counsellor. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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