🏡 Rights & responsibilities · #303

I am used to giving my wife orders. How do I change this into fair discussion?

Change your tone from commanding to inviting, and you will find cooperation replacing a sense of compulsion. Instead of ‘do this now’, try ‘can we sort this out together?’ A small change in wording conveys great respect. Discussing does not mean every matter must be debated; small things can be handled on your own, but matters that affect you both should be talked over. Give your wife room to voice her views before you reach a conclusion. When she feels she is a partner, not an employee, she contributes more. Start today with one request phrased as an invitation, not an order. Leadership that invites goes further than leadership that commands. See communication & emotions.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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