I keep asking my husband whether he wants to take another wife, to the point that it bothers him. How do I control this?

Repeated questions born of fear do not calm the heart; instead they put distance between the two of you. Each time the anxiety comes, pause and ask yourself whether there is real evidence or only imagination. Replace probing questions with a conversation about what you truly feel. Agree on a time to talk things out, rather than confronting your husband every day. Keep yourself busy with worship and activities that strengthen the soul. Remember that today's happiness should not be stolen by fears about tomorrow. If the fear is hard to control, consider help from a counsellor. See communication & emotions.

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