My husband's family from another country has very different views about a wife's role. How do I handle this?

Distinguish between what religion requires and family custom; the first must be respected, the second can be negotiated kindly. Some of your in-laws' expectations, such as who cooks for guests or whether the wife works, come from their culture, not from the Shariah. Discuss it with your husband privately first, so that he understands your feelings and is ready to be a bridge. A fair husband does not let his wife be squeezed between his family and himself, because Allah's command to husbands is clear: “live with them on a footing of kindness and equity” (Surah an-Nisa' 4:19). Respect customs that are not burdensome, and politely decline those that are unreasonable. For example: ‘I respect your family's ways, but in our home, we share the work together.’ See in-laws.