🕊️ Conflict & resolution · #156

Should I stay in the marriage purely for the children's sake after my spouse's infidelity?

The children's welfare matters, but it does not always mean staying in any circumstances, because children are also affected by a home full of hatred. If your spouse truly repents and the home can be restored to calm, continuing for the family's sake is a noble effort. But if the marriage stays toxic, the infidelity continues, or it is full of hostility, the children are not protected by keeping up an outward shell. Weigh the real situation, not the pressure of other people's opinions. Whatever you decide, protect the children from being used as weapons or as witnesses to arguments. A family counsellor can help you assess what is best for them. See trials in a marriage.

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This answer is general reference, not a fatwa. For your situation, consult the religious affairs office, a Syarie lawyer or your state Syariah Court.

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